Single, Gay, Christian: A Personal Journey of Faith and Sexual Identity by Gregory Coles
I happened to spot this title at our local library. I was pretty sure what the theme would be, but I was completely, 100% in error. This book is not at all what I thought it would be. I'm glad I read this book.
SINGLE, GAY, CHRISTIAN is the story of a young man struggling to learn how he can be a faithful Christian--a sincere follower of Jesus, who has the "wrong" feelings. The author makes it clear that he didn't ask to be gay. In fact, he admits he desperately did NOT want to be gay. The author recounts the many times he prayed to be "Made Straight." Greg desperately wanted to have the "usual" desire for women--but God chose to not answer his prayer.
Fortunately, the author found a good soul and a good counselor--a pastor friend, who listened, asked questions, and didn't judge. Most importantly, this wise man told Greg emphatically, "You are not a mistake."
The author investigated the Biblical admonitions about sex. He concluded that, in order to be true to the Bible, he would have to lead a celibate life. This puts him at odds with both the Christian community, as well as the LGBTQ community. He doesn't seem to fit in either group.
Greg explains that his life as a gay Christian doesn't mean a life without love or intimacy. One shouldn't confuse sex with true love:
"Living without sex is difficult. Living without intimacy is a death sentence."
So all in all, I found SINGLE, GAY, CHRISTIAN to be an important book. The author writes well, and expressly his thoughts clearly and concisely. Gregory Coles is a brave man. I encourage leaders in the Evangelical community to read this man's struggle to be a faithful follower of Jesus.
I thought this one sentence nicely summed up the book:"
A life if longing isn't a life without happiness." On the contrary, it's a life rich with detail, alive with wonder and beauty. It's when I am happiest that I long most. And someday, when I look into the face of my Savior, I will taste the fulfillment of an intimacy a thousand times sweeter than any pale earthly imitation."
Well-stated, Brother. You are definitely NOT a mistake.